About Steven
From Unworthiness to Freedom
Like many of us, most of my life, I lived under a quiet but relentless belief: I'm not enough... Without being smarter, stronger, more attractive or successful, I'm not good enough as I am for the kind of life and connection I want.
No matter what I did—no matter how much I achieved, improved, or tried to prove myself—it never felt like enough. The feeling followed me everywhere: in my relationships, in my career, in my health, even in my spirituality and in my deepest sense of self. Whether alone or with others, it was there.
I wasn’t fully aware of it at the time, but I was trapped. Not by circumstances. Not by other people. But by a story—an unconscious narrative telling me that I had to earn love, belonging, and my place in this world. That I had to be more before I could truly live, love, and step into authenticity.
The Journey Through the Illusion
From childhood, I learned that love was something you worked for, not something that simply existed. My parents were loving in the best way they could, but still distant, caught in patterns of numbing, distraction, and co-dependancy. There was no space for deep intimacy... for raw, unfiltered love and connection. Through their anxiety and the world around me, I came to believe "They don't feel open and safe around others, so I shouldn't either." I numbed, was judged harshly by myself and others, and internalized the belief that I had to change in order to be accepted.
As a teenager and young adult, my battle with binge eating, social anxiety, and deep suicidal depression only reinforced these beliefs. I felt alone, unworthy, and fundamentally broken. Even when I found music—a space where I found my first connection to heart and devotion—I still lived with the growing critical voice that whispered, never enough.
In my early adulthood, relationships became mirrors for my deepest wounds. I attracted partners who mirrored my own self-doubt, who triggered my fears of rejection and inadequacy. Breakups sent me into spirals of self-hatred, reinforcing the idea that I wasn’t lovable as I was. I sought for healing in psychedelics, spirituality, and self-development, yet still, the core wound remained: I am not enough.
Even in these realms, I was simply trying to become the best version of my limited self.
But the truth was waiting for me—and it had been there all along.
The Breaking Point: Facing the Illusion
My life changed when I faced my deepest fears head-on.
Through meditation, retreats, coaching, psychedelics, men's work and more I started to find clarity.
Eventually I traveled to Peru, where I immersed myself in ayahuasca dietas, nine ceremonies in one month—the most profound and life-altering experience of my life. While I had sat with the medicine many dozens of times before, here I was taken into the depths of my own psyche, confronted with the very thing I had spent my life running from: my own sense of unworthiness. I was forced to sit in the raw, unfiltered presence of every fear, every rejection, every piece of self-hatred I had carried for years and how it carried down from my generational lines and society.
And then… I saw the truth.
Not-enoughness was never real.
Unworthiness was never real.
I don't belong, I'm alone, I'm powerless, I'm trapped, and I'm wrong were never actually real.
These stories weren't mine. They weren't even personal. I made those stories as a kid to make sense of what was happening and my mind projected them everywhere to protect myself in the best way I learned. I mistook my all-to-human stories for my identity. And in that moment, the weight I had carried for years dissolved like seeing through a cloud of smoke.
And while I saw through these stories, I also realized that, like trying to remove all the parasites from the amazon river, we will always have these tender young parts of us who pick the stories back up and bring them to us in their fear for survival and belonging.
They aren't something to believe literally, nor are they something to bypass or even attempt to remove completely.
Stepping Into Freedom
From this knowing, my relationship to life changed which resulted in my actual life changing. I stopped waiting to be enough. I stopped holding back my expression, my calling, my love.
Coaching now for years and over 1000+ clients, I help others dissolve the illusions that have kept them stuck while truly seeing, feeling, loving and trusting every vulnerable part of themselves.
I work with people navigating plant medicine integration and those simply on a path of deep self-inquiry towards better relationships, vitality and purpose.
Even now, when my humanness arises and tempts me to see through a lens of lack, I hold it with the tenderness I'd extend to my future children: sincerely, but not seriously.
I see possibility. I no longer try to be the perfect person. In that, I reclaim my relatability and I simply show up as I am. I no longer ask, "Am I worthy?" because I now know the truth: The question was never real to begin with.
The Work I Do Now
I work with individuals and couples who are ready to shed the illusion of limitation. Whether you are integrating deep experiences with psychedelic medicine or walking your own path of transformation, I guide you to not just see, but truly know what has always been true:
You were never broken. Your survival self was impacted and carries it into now as an attempt to protect you.
You don’t need to become worthy—you're not, not worthy. You're not, not safe.
You are free.
And when you see that for yourself, what becomes possible? Your answer only depends on how big you can imagine, but the truth is infinity.
If you're ready to co-create the journey towards your own inner freedom, let's connect.
Set up a free consultation below to see what this work is really about.
In devotion to love, the earth, and your process...
Steven Fero ❤️
Book your free breakthrough call and we'll come up with a plan for you.
Wether it's with me, with someone else, or on your own we'll get you moving from surviving to thriving.
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